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Gaslighting: Signs, Situations, and Tips For Pushing Back
What does “gaslighting” even mean? Well, it all starts out with your stove…. Just kidding! (Sorry, we couldn’t help ourselves!) For real this time, use this table of contents below to learn what gaslighting is, where it can show up, how to spot it –and most importantly– how to deal with it. What Is Gaslighting? In What Kinds Of Relationships Might I Experience Gaslighting? Gaslighting In Romantic Relationships Gaslighting In Families Signs Of Gaslighting: A Checklist How To Reject Gaslighting
From Coping To Healing: Making The Transition
Sometimes, we feel like all we can do is cope with our mental health. We don’t believe that we have the time, the resources, or the ability to actually work through our scars and struggles. Though managing symptoms through coping mechanisms may work temporarily, coping is not a long-term solution. Healing, on the other hand, means making long-term changes that allow us to thrive, rather than just barely survive. We can all work through our trauma and its effects on
After Trauma: Post Traumatic Growth and Liminal Space
Once you endure major trauma, you will change as a person–that much is certain. And while you didn’t choose your trauma or the potential negative impact that it had on you, you do get to decide what you’ll do next. That’s the beauty of both liminality, and the post traumatic growth it leads to. How Trauma Changes Us I am a trauma survivor. In October of 2016, I survived an assault, and prior to that, I’d undergone a very substantial amount
Healing From Injustice By Channeling Righteous Anger
Anger is a normal, valid, and often adaptive response to frustrating situations; not the demon it’s often made out to be. But anger–even righteous anger–can quickly become self-destructive if not processed carefully. In this guide, we discuss where anger comes from, how to understand your own anger, and how to use anger as motivation for healing. Healing from anger is very different from ignoring or stuffing it down. Additionally we want to note that while this article may also apply
Recover Your Sense Of Self In Order To Heal
When you’ve experienced a scarring event or relationship, healing means learning to follow your own path, and to meet your own needs before others’. However, the experiences that necessitate healing tend to also tear down your sense of self. How can you follow your own path, if your trauma keeps you from seeing it? In order to heal and make meaningful changes to your life, you have to recover your sense of self. Without rebuilding a strong sense of self,
NC: How To Go No Contact Without Guilt
Not everyone goes NC in their lives, but when you have to…you just have to. Below, we walk through the NC process and ways to beat the guilt that comes with it. For those of us who need to go the no-contact route, it often feels like an unpaved path that many can’t sympathize with or relate to. Even though many don’t get it, many do — and it may help to talk it out with one of those people.
Suffering: Why Do We Feel Emotional Pain?
As unpleasant as it can be, emotional pain is a tool that we can use. On the other hand, we suffer when we fail to meet our own needs and nurture ourselves in difficult emotional times. The worst suffering comes from unmet needs we have no power over. However, many of us suffer unnecessarily, in situations where we’ve dismissed our needs. Examining our own emotional pain helps us prevent needless suffering — and that helps us heal. Keep reading about
It’s Hard To Heal While Swimming In Self Blame
We all criticize ourselves every once in a while. Being aware of our faults and where we need to improve is a good thing. However, self-blame crosses the line from constructive self-awareness into emotional self-harm. Self-blame often pops up as a result of trauma, and can really mess with both physical and mental health. And in an unhelpful feedback loop, battling self-blame makes healing trauma, depression, and anxiety significantly more difficult. It’s important to remember that your struggles are not
Heartbreak: How To Heal After A Long Term Relationship
Can you mend a broken heart after a long term relationship? Yes. Have faith in your ability to heal from heartbreak, and get familiar with the 7-step process ahead… At the end of a long term relationship, only a few lucky folks escape feeling free of heartbreak. Especially after a lengthy period of time, you likely expected this to last, and may have even counted on it to last. Is it even possible to heal from this severe a broken
How To Know Your Boundaries And Assert Them Without Guilt
You politely laugh off something that makes you uncomfortable, only to later realize you wish you’d spoken up. You didn’t even hint at your discomfort, because you didn’t realize it was a problem for you, until after-the-fact. What would help in this situation? Learning your boundaries. Setting boundaries is both nerve-wracking and necessary, but it remains impossible without getting to know your boundaries. Few of us learn our own personal boundaries while growing up, and many others sacrifice their boundaries
COVID Collection »
Self care and tips to cope during the pandemic
Existential Crisis, Anxiety, Or Dread? Inner Tools To Find Relief
Resentment In COVID Pods: 8 Steps To Resolve And Prevent It
Don’t Care About Anything? Enjoy Life Again, Through COVID-19
Teachers: Start The Year By Honoring Your Struggle In 5 Steps
How To Deal With Anxiety During The COVID-19 Crisis
7 Ways To Adapt To COVID-19 Loneliness
How COVID-19 Shows Us To Bond With Our Families
How To (Not) React When Your Kid Pushes Your Buttons
How To Help Others Without Draining Your Batteries
Steps To Take When You’re Depressed and Can’t Find A Job
How To Help When Someone Has Been Triggered
Why Do I Push People Away? How To Stop For COVID’s Sake
When People Seek Help, What Do They Actually Need?
Health Workers: While You Combat COVID-19, We Support You
Things To Tell Yourself When You’re In The Depression Pit
How To Have A Difficult Conversation In Your Relationship
Long Distance Relationships: A Survival Guide
Communicating With Your Partner: Skills and Tips
Reverse Helplessness and Anxiety
How to React to a Panic Attack
Troubleshooting Loneliness
Parenting Collection »
Handle speed bumps, frustration, and the unexpected
How COVID-19 Shows Us To Bond With Our Families
How To (Not) React When Your Kid Pushes Your Buttons
Setting Boundaries With Your Kids Is Worth It—Here’s How
Teaching Your Child Self-Advocacy
My Child Has No Friends. What Do I Do?
How To Talk To Your Kids About Your Mental Health
Lonely Empty Nesters: Adjusting To Me-Time
Why Is My Teen So Mean To Me?
Anxiety Collection »
Regain peace of mind
How To Deal With Anxiety During The COVID-19 Crisis
Anxiety and Insomnia: Breaking The Cycle
Choosing Music to Calm Anxiety
How To Manage Financial Anxiety
Loneliness and Social Anxiety: The Connection Is Not A Curse
13 High School Struggles and How To Handle Them
Social Anxiety: Resist Hiding By The Appetizers!
Work Anxiety: How To Deal Without Therapy
Reverse Helplessness and Anxiety
How to React to a Panic Attack
Quick Anxiety-Calming Tips
Digital Anxiety: What It Is and How to Deal
Beat Anxiety by Connecting With Others
Meeting New People Despite Social Anxiety
Get Grounded Through Mindfulness
Depression Collection »
Start to heal, at your own pace
Don’t Care About Anything? Enjoy Life Again, Through COVID-19
After Trauma: Post Traumatic Growth and Liminal Space
Does My Insurance Cover Mental Health? Help For You Or A Friend
I Hate Myself: Overcome Feeling Broken And Low Self Esteem
Raised By Narcissists: Signs, Effects, And Tips For Recovery
Steps To Take When You’re Depressed and Can’t Find A Job
After the Loss of a Pet, Put Grief and Healing First
Dating Someone With Depression: Everyone Can Win
Need Someone To Talk To? Stop Feeling Isolated
Zoning Out Too Much? There’s A Name For That
Starving Yourself Is Emotional Self Harm, Too
Anxiety and Insomnia: Breaking The Cycle
DIY Anti-Depressant: How To Meet Your Own Emotional Needs
How To Cope After A Coworker’s Suicide
Feeling Directionless? Why It Happens and How To Move On
Yes, I Am Suicidal. No, I Am Not Going To Kill Myself
Self-Hatred, Loneliness, and Depression: Break The Cycle
Brain Fog: How Depression Can Make You Tired
The 12 Most Honest Grief Quotes On The Internet
Things To Tell Yourself When You’re In The Depression Pit
Am I Depressed Or Am I Lonely?
When You Want To Hurt Yourself, Try One Of These 15 Swaps
Do This To Get Yourself Out Of The House
Nobody Understands: Myths About Depression
Loneliness Collection »
Loneliness ends here
7 Ways To Adapt To COVID-19 Loneliness
The Quest For Intimacy vs Isolation: How To Get On Track
I’m So Lonely. What Can I Do To Feel Less Alone?
Loneliness: It’s Not Just You
Keep Chronic Loneliness From Affecting Your Brain and Body
Alone vs. Lonely: To Those Who Like Being Alone…
Feeling Alone: Quotes That Actually Get It
Are Introverts Lonely? Facts and Tips
How To Be Happily Alone For The Holidays: 5 Things To Try
Self-Hatred, Loneliness, and Depression: Break The Cycle
Why You Can Feel Lonely In A Relationship, And What To Do
Find A Cure For Your Loneliness: Data-Based Suggestions
Nobody To Talk To? Use A Judgement-Free Chat
Build Confidence To Combat Loneliness
Lonely Empty Nesters: Adjusting To Me-Time
Am I Depressed Or Am I Lonely?
Feeling Lonely Around Friends? Try This
Veterans Continue Their Fight At Home — Against Loneliness
Loneliness and Social Anxiety: The Connection Is Not A Curse
There’s No Shame In Feeling Lonely
To Feel Less Lonely, Talk About It
Coping Tools Collection »
Convenient tools to cope with any struggle
What Is Peer Support? How Can It Reprogram Your Mental Health?
(Alternative) Ways To Journal That Work
Existential Crisis, Anxiety, Or Dread? Inner Tools To Find Relief
Resentment In COVID Pods: 8 Steps To Resolve And Prevent It
Notice And Replace Your Negative Core Beliefs
Don’t Care About Anything? Enjoy Life Again, Through COVID-19
Teachers: Start The Year By Honoring Your Struggle In 5 Steps
Help! What Am I Going To Do? Ways To Keep Moving Forward
Healing From Injustice By Channeling Righteous Anger
Does My Insurance Cover Mental Health? Help For You Or A Friend
The Emotional Needs Of First Responders
When You’ve Tried Meditation But It Doesn’t Work…
Oversharing: 4 Types of Oversharers and How To Handle Them
How To Deal With Anxiety During The COVID-19 Crisis
How To Stop Thinking About Someone: 10 Steps
Emotional Self Care For BLM Activists
Understanding Your Sexual And Gender Identity: A Guide
7 Ways To Adapt To COVID-19 Loneliness
I Fucked Up: What To Do When You’ve Made A Mistake
Steps To Take When You’re Depressed and Can’t Find A Job
Why Am I So Emotional? It Might Not Be A Bad Thing
Why Do I Push People Away? How To Stop For COVID’s Sake
Do You Have A Dysfunctional Family? Signs And How To Cope
Anonymous Online Chat – No Registration – Chat Now
Stress Relief Collection »
Let go of the tension
(Alternative) Ways To Journal That Work
Wholesome Memes To Cheer You Up On The Fly
When You’ve Tried Meditation But It Doesn’t Work…
5 Real Reasons to Keep Living, Minus The Fluff
Am I Burned Out, Exhausted, or Tired of Life?
Depression Memes That Actually Get It
Supportive Online Chat Rooms in 2020: Your Choices
Student Loan Debt Doesn’t Have To Own You
Give And Get Words of Encouragement
Feeling Alone: Quotes That Actually Get It
Listen to Me! Signs You Just Need Someone To Listen
8 Dysfunctional Family Quotes To Ease Your Struggle
The 12 Most Honest Grief Quotes On The Internet
11 Genuinely Comforting Quotes For Any Struggle
Tools To Stop Racing Thoughts, Fast
3 Reasons Why You Should Stop ‘Shoulding’ On Yourself
Self-Harm: Not The Only Option For Release
“How Are You?” Isn’t Enough
30 Movies to Watch When You’re Feeling Stressed
Take On The World By Re-Parenting Yourself
The Best Tweets from #HowIFightDepression
Self Parenting Day: Signs You Self-Parented, and How To Celebrate
Happy National Cheese Pizza Day! Here’s How To Celebrate
Relationship Collection »
Struggles, status, and survival skills
How To Move On From A Friendship Breakup, In 6 Steps
How To Know Your Boundaries And Assert Them Without Guilt
How To Stop Thinking About Someone: 10 Steps
How Not To Suck At Listening
Understanding Your Sexual And Gender Identity: A Guide
When And How To Break Up With A Friend
10 Ways To Show Unconditional Love If You Never Learned
Why Do I Push People Away? How To Stop For COVID’s Sake
Anonymous Online Chat – No Registration – Chat Now
Controlling Behavior: Signs, Causes, and What To Do About It
Serial Monogamy: Definition, Pros, and Cons
Should I Stay? Reasons To Stay In A Tough Relationship
Love Hurts Sometimes, But That’s Not Always A Bad Sign
31 Songs About Cheating and Being Cheated On
When To End A Relationship: Signs To Consider Leaving
An Emotional Affair: Definition, Signs, and What To Do Next
Trauma Bonding: What It Is And How To Avoid It
Still Love Your Ex? It’s Normal, But You Can Stop The Pain
Why You Can Feel Lonely In A Relationship, And What To Do
Introducing A New Significant Other At The Holidays
How To Have A Difficult Conversation In Your Relationship
Toxic Relationships: How You Got In And How To Get Out
Signs and Effects of a Toxic Relationship: The Complete Guide
Help A Friend Through A Breakup With These Techniques
Family Drama Collection »
Boundaries, coping & resilience
Gaslighting: Signs, Situations, and Tips For Pushing Back
Come Out Comfortably
Raised By Narcissists: Signs, Effects, And Tips For Recovery
Do You Have A Dysfunctional Family? Signs And How To Cope
Air Your Grievances Productively – Here’s How
Explaining Your Life Choices Like A Boss
Controlling Behavior: Signs, Causes, and What To Do About It
Handling the Hot Seat: Grey-Rocking
How To Deal With Favoritism Shown To A Relative
Mental Health And The Holidays
Keep Your Holidays Festive, Not Frenzied
Sharing With Relatives Who Don’t Believe In Mental Health
8 Dysfunctional Family Quotes To Ease Your Struggle
Surviving The Holidays With Divorced Parents
Introducing A New Significant Other At The Holidays
How To Decline An Invitation Without Being A Jerk
Why Is My Teen So Mean To Me?
The Drunk Uncle Said Something Inappropriate…
‘Wake Up!’: Helping A Relative Out of Denial
No Kids? Clap Back at Pressuring Relatives
Identifying and Confronting A Bully In The Family
Why Am I Single? Defend Your Single Status to Family
Troubleshooting Loneliness
How To Meet The In-Laws For The First Time
How To Help Collection »
Stay strong through someone else’s struggle
Ways To Help A Person With Self Destructive Behaviors
Being a BLM Ally Means Being a Better Listener
How To Improve Your Own Empathy And Be A Better Ally
How Not To Suck At Listening
How To Help Others Without Draining Your Batteries
How To Help When Someone Has Been Triggered
When People Seek Help, What Do They Actually Need?
How To Respond When Someone Is Overly Self Deprecating
How To Support A Friend Having An Identity Crisis
How To Recommend Therapy To Someone You Care About
When A Loved One Struggles With Substance Use Or Addiction…
How To Help A Loved One With Financial Issues
DV: 7 Ways To Lift Up A Victim Of Domestic Violence
All You Need To Support Someone With Body Image Issues
Celebrity Collection »
Celebs share their own struggles
Comedian Gary Gulman’s Depression Struggle
NFL Players Tackle Mental Health Challenges
Mental Health in the NBA: Pressures Beyond The Shot Clock
Teen + Millennial Celebs Advocate for Mental Health
Comedians: Smiling in Front of a Crowd (Part 2)
Comedians: Smiling in Front of a Crowd (Part 1)
Soccer: Mental Wellness Is The Goal
Mental Bases – MLB Players Focus on Mental Strength
Entrepreneurs Turn Disabilities Into Capabilities
Even The “Sexiest Man Alive” Experiences Anguish
Nicki Minaj Overcoming Suicidal Thoughts: “Life Is a Movie, But There Will Never Be a Sequel”
Michelle Williams: An Independent Woman’s Journey With Depression
A Former Self: Mariah Carey, Demi Lovato & Scott Stapp Discuss Bipolar Disorder
Jay-Z: Bare Some Pain
Out of the Dark: Celebrity Women Break the Silence on Postpartum Depression
Hip Hop’s Cerebral Minds Engage in Mental Health Advocacy
Lady Gaga: Kindness This Way
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