You want a healthy relationship, but can’t stand conflict. Learn how to make it happen: Supportiv’s co-founder kicks off a Bustle roundup on how to communicate better with your partner, even while drowning in conflict anxiety.

For those who habitually avoid conflict, honest communication with your partner takes extra effort. But the effort doesn’t necessarily have to begin with your partner. Kristine Fellizar, of Bustle, introduces Supportiv’s advice on where to start:

“One way to remedy a pattern of conflict-avoidance is to talk it out with someone before you approach your partner. ‘It could be a trusted friend, family member, or even an anonymous peer support group,’ Helena Plater-Zyberk, co-founder of Supportiv, tells Bustle.”

Find someone judgement-free, who can help you think through your values and decide which issues are worth risking conflict over,” Helena continues.

If you can’t think of anyone to consult with about your relationship issues, please don’t shy away from using tools!

When you don’t have those idealized deep, personal friendships to rely on, online, anonymous peer support is the next best choice.

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