This worksheet helps you think of the ideal qualities that would make you feel good in a relationship. This could be a relationship with a partner, friend, or family member.

Also, consider potential exceptions to your ideals, in order to create realistic relationship goals.

Take just 10 minutes to complete this worksheet by: 

  • Printing it, or
  • Writing your answers on a separate piece of paper, or
  • Typing your answers into Notes or a word document.

We’ve added some examples of relationship ideals, but you should add the traits that make you feel best. Then rate the importance of each on a scale of 1-5 (1 being least important).

Who can this relationship goals worksheet help, and how?

This worksheet is good for people who have experienced:

  • Relationship struggles
  • Communication issues
  • Abandonment
  • Boundary issues
  • Heartbreak
  • Abuse
  • Narcissism
  • Loneliness
  • Social anxiety
  • Pushing people away

Need motivation?

“If you notice that your relationship doesn’t meet all these criteria, that does not necessarily mean you should end things with your partner. Consider this list a general set of guidelines that can help you start evaluating whether your current relationship is bringing you satisfaction and happiness.” – Shana Lebowitz and Marguerite Ward

“We knowingly chain ourselves to broken ideals/relationships out of a struggle with our self-worth.” – Paul Publisher

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