Use this worksheet to have productive conversations about boundaries, by creating a boundary contract. Explore both sides of the situation, identify compromises, and agree on how to handle boundary violations.

Take just 10 minutes to complete this worksheet by: 

  • Printing it, or
  • Writing your answers on a separate piece of paper, or
  • Typing your answers into Notes or a word document.

Who can this boundary contract worksheet help, and how?

This relationships worksheet is good for people who have experienced:

  • Overwhelm
  • Relationship struggles
  • Communication issues
  • Marginalization
  • Gaslighting
  • Boundary issues
  • Abuse
  • Family dysfunction

Before you create this boundary contract together, agree that the following are true for both of you:

  • I am not responsible for other people’s feelings, even though I care about how others feel.
  • My emotions count, and so do my needs.
  • I can validate another person’s feelings without sacrificing what I need.
  • My opinion matters as much as other people’s opinions.

Need motivation?

“One of the most vital components to creating a fulfilling relationship is to set healthy boundaries. Simply put, boundaries are what set the space between where you end and the other person begins. For some people, setting boundaries can be extremely difficult. We have to learn when it is the proper time to set a boundary and how to find a balance in setting boundaries so they are not too weak or too rigid. This is why communicating your boundaries clearly is key.” – Spence Counseling Center

“Setting boundaries in a relationship is important…While most rules of a relationship are pretty much common courtesy…some rules are less obvious. It’s the little things that keep a relationship alive, so make sure you both sign off.” – Kristan Buck

“You sit down together and say, ‘Okay, what does being in a relationship mean to us individually? What’s important to us that we make sure we include in here? What can we put in our contract that would make you feel safe, loved, seen, and cared for?’” – Jordan Gray

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